While growing up, I never showed my anger, because whenever I responded angrily at something, I would get yelled at.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhy are you angry about this? I should be the one who\u2019s angry!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So I had to stuff down my anger, believing that I have no right to be angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And I see this so often in my clients, they either believe that anger is not good, or they don\u2019t have a right to be angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And sometimes, I\u2018d hear people say, \u201cI don\u2019t know why I\u2019m so angry all the time, what can I do to make it go away?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Or \u201cI\u2019d been working on my anger, but I still feel so much of it in me, I\u2019m so tired of this.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And this is what I always say:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Being angry is ok.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We\u2019d been conditioned to believe that being angry is not ok. Something\u2019s wrong us when we\u2019re angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But when we don\u2019t let our emotions come out, it boils over, and sometimes it affects the people around us, like we have a bad temper around our kids, and they don\u2019t want to be close to us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So what can we do about it?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Simply allow it to come out without shaming it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s ok to feel angry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now of course, we don\u2019t want to direct this anger at anyone. So please find a safe spot where you are alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And allow yourself to scream, yell, curse, or say whatever you need it out of your system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you want, you may also allow yourself to hit a pillow, hit the bed, or hit something that is not breakable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And after the screaming, it may turn into tears, it may turn into sadness, or you may feel better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Just let yourself feel all the emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once you\u2019d given yourself plenty of time to let it out, then you can ask yourself, \u201cwhat do I need to move forward\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
And then do that, or get that fulfilled.
You may find you\u2019ll have more patience with others and with yourself once you have let your anger out.
Find it intriguing? Give it a try, and let me know how it feels afterwards, would love to hear about your experience.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
While growing up, I never showed my anger, because whenever I responded angrily at something, I would get yelled at. \u201cWhy are you angry about this? I should be the one who\u2019s angry!\u201d So I had to stuff down my anger, believing that I have no right to be angry. And I see this so […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":940,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_wp_convertkit_post_meta":{"form":"-1","landing_page":"","tag":"0","restrict_content":"0"},"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-939","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\n