{"id":881,"date":"2024-07-08T21:46:32","date_gmt":"2024-07-09T02:46:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/claudiachan.co\/?p=881"},"modified":"2024-07-08T21:46:34","modified_gmt":"2024-07-09T02:46:34","slug":"loved-for-who-youre-pretending-to-be","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/loved-for-who-youre-pretending-to-be\/","title":{"rendered":"Loved for who you're pretending to be?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tomorrow is my birthday! And we went to the beach today for some fun.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-medium\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" src=\"https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/beach-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-882\" srcset=\"https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/beach-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/beach-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/beach-600x450.jpg 600w, https:\/\/evercraftleather.com\/claudiachan\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/beach.jpg 800w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I was going through my coach\u2019s materials, and came across this quote.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cI\u2019d rather be hated for who I really am, than loved for who I\u2019m pretending to be.\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In it, she talked about how being more ourselves is such a wonderful idea, but why wouldn\u2019t more people do that?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That is because in order to be more ourselves, we actually have to actively choose grief, and if I may add, fear.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Grief for the potential of losing the people we love, or losing physical security, financial security, etc.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fear for potentially getting hurt, yelled at, shamed, etc.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I had to make the choice between my then boyfriend (now husband) and my family, I had to deal with the pain of my family walking away.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I spoke on stage about this incident during my speaking competition, I had to take care of the fear of potentially hurting my husband and my parents all over again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I work with my clients who want to stand up for themselves, some of them felt paralyzed at the potential of getting kicked out by their family, or at how they might bring \u201cshame\u201d to the family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Taking each step may feel like walking through fire. 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