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Reflecting back, one of the themes that I kept encountering is feeling alone, or that I don't belong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I remember the very first time that I felt this way was when my dad dropped me off at a new school when I was 5(or 6) years old.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The entrance to the school was down a set of stone steps, and he walked me down, and when I turned around, he said bye, and he was about to leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I started crying, and all I remembered was my dad turned back to look down at me from a few steps above, and he had this helpless smile on his face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then another dad was dropping his daughter off. When he saw me, he escorted me inside the school along with his daughter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had no recollection of what happened afterwards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But this feeling stayed with me for a long time. I felt I was alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had to do everything on my own, and I always felt like I had to carry a big weight on my shoulders.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But here's something beautiful after I worked through this story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am now focusing on the dad who brought me inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn't know him. But for a brief moment, he was there for me to get me to the next step.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I have a lot of those people in my life too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what happened was, I was so focused on being abandoned, that I neglected the people who reached out to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We're sometimes in so deep of our stories, we failed to notice the bigger picture.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want you to realize this, if you believe that you're all alone, I want to challenge you to see this wall.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you have a wall? A wall you'd built up because of your past painful experiences?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I'm sure you had endured a lot, had gone through a lot. And having a wall is natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is meant to protect ourselves when we were younger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what this wall does, in addition to protect us, is it also blocks out other people from reaching out to us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They may want to help us and support us, but they can't get through to us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So to break through this wall, you have to learn to do 3 things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. acknowledge that this wall is present<\/li>
  2. learn to love yourslef<\/li>
  3. start working on your beliefs to break this wall down<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    I have recorded a podcast episode <\/a>about this. If you're interested in it, I'd love for you to have a listen to it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    \"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

    And I'm excited to share with you that, I've officially changed the name of my podcast from Love Shine Flourish back to Extraordinary Asian Women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It took me a long time to get back to embrace my root, which I am an extraordinary asian woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Also, IF you live in Toronto, and if you're an immigrant to Canada, I want to introduce you to an event!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    The Immigrant Women in Business is hosting an event called Women's Empowerment<\/a>, Social impact, Diversity, Equity & Entrepreneurship<\/a>. It's an event for you if you want to network, and find a group of people who is more than willing to support you! I'm one of the sponsors for this event, so if you're interested in it, come talk to me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    I want you to know that you're not alone, you don't have to do this by yourself. There are people who are here for you, and I'm also one of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Book a session with me now if you want someone to help you break down this wall. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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