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It's okay to be angry

August 9, 2024

While growing up, I never showed my anger, because whenever I responded angrily at something, I would get yelled at. “Why are you angry about this? I should be the one who’s angry!” So I had to stuff down my anger, believing that I have no right to be angry. And I see this so […]

How can you be so heartless?

August 8, 2024

“I don’t want to do it, but I feel so guilty if I don’t.” This is the response I often hear from my clients, when their parents force their kids to take care of them, or do what they say. It sounds so heartless when I tell them, you’re not responsible for your parents. And […]

What to do when my mom keeps guilt tripping me?

August 6, 2024

While I was in my 20s, I was in a “rebellious” phase, where every weekend, I was pretty much out doing something with my friends. Mostly dancing. And once I started dating people, my mom was mad because the people I was with weren’t guys she approved of. And she would always say things like, […]

The journey to stand for you.

August 2, 2024

Recently, I see so many of these stories: My parents are against me dating my other half. My parents keep saying that I’m selfish for not taking care of my siblings. My parents are forcing me to give up on going on this trip. My parents are dictating that I can only marry someone from […]

Expecting your kids to take care of you and your other kids???

August 1, 2024

When our children are young, I totally understand that it’s important to instil a sense of responsibility into them. Teach them what it means to help out, so they can take care of themselves. I have a 7 yo son, I do want him to be more independent, so that he is capable of looking […]

Neglecting the Eldest

July 30, 2024

So I was scrolling through social media, and one of the teachers I followed shared a post. It was about one of the mothers he was working with, and the mom shared the following: When I had my younger daughter, my older son seemed to have regressed. He would poke or hit the sister, whine, […]

Your past experiences make you who you are (Deadpool & Wolverine spoilers)

July 29, 2024

I went to watch Deadpool and Wolverine yesterday with Anthony, my husband, yesterday. If you don’t want to get any spoilers, I will do a quick summary of what I’m going to talk about here: Sometimes, we may get upset or bogged down by our past experiences. We may think, if only my parents treated […]

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